Q&A: Why does it seem like many law enforcement personnel seem to want to just abuse power in one way or another?
Question by Cris: Why does it seem like many law enforcement personnel seem to want to just abuse power in one way or another?
I know that this may possibly upset those of you who either have law enforcement family members or some other sort of biases towards them for one reason or another, and so I want to clarify that I DO NOT direct what I’m about to say towards ALL of the law enforcement community, there are many honest, fair officers, this only applies to a part of that community.
I’m not exactly sure where my disdain for many involved in law enforcement began, maybe it was just another part of a greater awareness to the plight of others and having a much deeper capacity for compassion than I once had. Regardless, I’ve noticed time and time again around my community, other places I travel, and even on many of the police/DEA shows on TV, that enforcing the law has become a sort of “game” to them, as if people were prey that they were on the hunt for or merely an opportunity to make someone’s life more difficult than it already was. One specific conversation I overheard (in line at a busy gas station of all places??) stands out in my mind. I must clarify that this wasn’t overheard through eavesdropping or “trying to be sneaky,” this group of three or four officers were standing probably 10 feet or so behind me in line and were speaking loudly enough I could easily hear them without having to turn around. At any rate, they were talking about how they were able to hold this guy up for over an hour while he was on the way to work for no real reason at all, he was just passed the wrong cop that day who was in the mood to harass someone. Furthermore, and I’ve noticed this more so on the TV shows, it seems like many of them have no compassion for a person’s situation nor any shred of understanding of the fact that everyone makes a mistake and should be shown a little leeway, excluding serious crimes like murder, rape, child molestation, etc. One hypothetical situation I’d like to pose (although not great will suffice for argumentation sake) is one where two guys are at a bar that have a confrontation that escalates into a fistfight, police response is to break up the fight, okay this is a good thing, we can’t fight each other to the death, however, even though both parties are nothing more than bruised up and neither are pressing charges, in many cases they’re both cuffed and charged with fighting in public. Why do they feel the need to arrest them? The fight is over, no one is seriously injured, why can’t it be left at that? To me, from a psychoanalytical perspective, this seems like a control complex; by allowing no “wiggle room” with the law and thus lacking the compassion to acknowledge the fact that sometimes emotions can get pushed to a certain point that a fight ensues, they assert a need to control over the involved parties and whisk them off in the patrol car.
One last issue that not only annoys me, but infuriates me is how marijuana is treated in this country. This plant that grows in the ground with no additive properties whatsoever and whose negative consequences (motor function impairment and respiratory damage) are the same as two psychoactive substances (alcohol and tobacco) we have legally available to those of age. This plant many a times gets someone incarcerated for longer than a rapist or child molester. I’m sorry, but this to me is one of the most disgusting, pathetic sins our justice system as a whole has committed. No one forces anyone to use drugs, and no one can ever come close to stopping the drug trade, even with the massive amount of energy and money that from some perspectives is merely wasted, and from my perspective, the victims of any heinous crime against humanity deserve so much more effort and resources to be put towards protecting them from the crime or prosecuting those who commit those crimes than they ever will receive because of the obsession with fighting an endless war on the drug trade.
SKUD, yes you are completely right, that was what I was trying to convey, I guess i got a bit carried away and didn’t bring that point across clearly enough…And I’m glad to hear that things worked themselves out in the end for the woman that you were talking about, that’s a really messed up thing to have happen : /
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Answer by SKUD
Well, it’s not the profession, it’s the people. There are bad doctors, lawyers, nurses, soldiers, even just bullies you see in the store insulting people because they are bigger.
A woman I know was falsely charged for “prostitution” by a cop because she looks Mexican and he had something against Mexicans (this was years ago in North Carolina). I won’t go into details but it was obvious police abuse. Sad part was, she is actually white, but just dark-skinned because she has Armenian heritage. Fortunately she did win that case and filed a complaint but still spent two days in jail for nothing.
I think the problem is that police have authority, but the person filling that authority is not mature or moral enough to fill that position. It’s no different than when you get a bad boss at work that cuts corners, plays favorites, and bullies people around because he is a crappy leader. Or watch the movie Platoon about what happens in the military under the command of a bad Army officer.
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Q&A: Does he like me, or just as a friend?
Question by : Does he like me, or just as a friend?
So there’s this guy I kind of like in my grade (one of the few mature boys in my class). I was at the homecoming football game last night, and we ended up standing next to each other in line at the concessions stand. We both hunt, and we were talking a little and he said, “This might sound a little weird, but do you think I could go hunting with you and your dad sometime? Because I have like no one to take me hunting.” (something along those lines; I don’t remember exactly what it was). But, he asked another girl to previous dances in 7th and 8th grade. And it’s not like he’s ever said to me, “Hey, I like you,” or something like that. Does this mean he likes me? Or is he just being friendly and wants to be friends with me.
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Answer by pelican
I think he does like you as more than a friend.
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whats her deal here? is she just playing games?
Question by herbalchef: whats her deal here? is she just playing games?
so i sent my ex girlfriend a text message last night after about 3 weeks of VERY LIMITED contact. the breakup wasnt nasty and we dont hate or dislike eachother, and we may get back together. So anyway, I said “Hey, hows it goin? how’s the job hunting comin?” She responded almost instantly (whiich she never used to do.) she responded with “hey. i got that job at my internship which is awesome. I start next week,” I responded about two hours later with “word. congrats. are you nervous?” I havent heard back.
I guess my question is if she didnt want to talk to me at all why respond to the first message? She left the door open with her response. she could have either ignored me or just said “im good.” Why ignore the second message though? Yeah i was a little aloof, but i wasnt mean. My mind is RUNNING WILD… I feel like my response could have been better.. but I was trying to exhibit confidence and not make it seem i was thinking JUST about her….I waited two hours because I did not want to seem so available
She was a very honest person and pretty straightfoward when we were dating.. so id be surprised shes playing games here.. but maybe she thought I was? Im losing my mind i need some therapy i think.. lol
sorry this is probably a stupid question but opinions would be appreciated.. Thank you.
She is 23
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Answer by Hank
First off, I don’t think you need therapy. I think you need to realize that the two of you are broken up. That is the first, very hard pill to swallow. You said that you left each other on amicable terms and that there was a chance to get back together. I would forget that.
You two are broken up, because something is broken. I have ended dozens of relationships on good terms thinking that it left the door open to the possibility of getting back together with someone. Honestly, that is a horrible misconception. You two split because there is some kind of indifference. They call it a break up because it is broken.
You may think that the possibility is there to return to what you once had, but that is probably not the same thought that is going through her mind. She has not contacted you very much in 3 weeks, because she doesn’t want to. Her not responding to your second text should not make you lose your mind. It should show you that, “hey, you know maybe she is moving on with her life and so should I.” That’s a hard truth, but one that you have to realize.
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Q&A: I just don’t know what to do!?
Question by I find your lack of faith disturbing: I just don’t know what to do!?
Okay, well, we’ve been having some problems with our dog lately.
Here’s some background. He’s an 8 month old German Shorthair mix, we think heeler and/or jack russel terrier. Very high energy dog, and very willful and stubborn. He’s great with other dogs, and he loves kids. Despite his hyper, rambunctious personality he’s very gentle and patient with our 9 month old daughter.
So what’s the problem? My husband and I are NOT on the same page as far as training goes. I like NILIF training and I like my dog to have some shred of respect for me and do what I say when I say. I like a dog that doesn’t jump on me without invitation, doesn’t mouth, paw, or claw at me, and doesn’t walk right up to me and demand attention. I like a dog that, though excited, can sit still long enough at the dog park gates for me to unleash him and give him the verbal okay to run through the gate.
My husband thinks all of this is excessive and doesn’t “want him to be a robot”. Consequently we have a dog that is generally a good dog while I’m home but as soon as my husband gets home it all goes out the window. The dog starts counter surfing, stealing food from the baby while she’s in her high chair (he does not do this when it’s just me), sniffs at the trash and sometimes pulls something out, jumps, barks, whines constantly, plays with anything BUT his own toys, and is just generally an obnoxious pest. I quickly reach the end of my patience and he gets banished to the gated off stairwell or his crate so I don’t have an aneurysm and scream.
He’s a puppy, and I know that, part of the problem is I have little patience for rambunctious puppies, but I knew what I was getting into getting this dog, and I THOUGHT my husband was on the same page as me. We’d discussed training and all that before we even inquired about his litter and at the time we agreed on everything. We get the dog home and after a few weeks I found out we have wildly different ideas of what a good, trained dog is.
I’ve given him an ultimatum, either we get together and make this work or I’ll take the dog to the humane society myself. He’ll be reading up on NILIF training all weekend while he’s not out hunting, until his eyes bleed. We’re going to get into obedience classes so we’re both a little more on the same page. I’m really looking for more ideas to help make this more paletable for my husband. He just doesn’t understand that a stubborn dog needs consistent leadership, and that training him to obey his commands consistently is good for everybody.
He seems to think it’s just a puppy being a puppy and that the dog will simply grow out of it, but lately he comments on how the dog should be settling down by now. I don’t think he really understands that this isn’t a phase, it’s an unruly dog that is getting mixed messages, doesn’t know his place, and doesn’t understand what he needs to be doing.
Does anybody have any other useful links or advice for BOTH of us? I’m open to advice as well, I’ve dealt with some rowdy dogs before but I wasn’t living with somebody else at the time, so there were no mixed messages being sent and there was no confusion. Trying to handle this without turning it into a fight is taking enough of my will power as it is lol.
I’ve put an ad on Craigslist to rehome him, but I’m having second thoughts because, naturally, I love my dog and really would prefer to keep the little bastard. If I’m convinced by the end of the weekend that we can figure this out I’ll have the task of telling several people that I’ve changed my mind and that I’m terribly sorry for wasting their time. I feel like such a jerk, either way.
So yeah, ANY advice would be appreciated, since most of you seem level headed enough and I do value your opinions. 
No TD from me, either, that would just be silly and counterproductive.
@Donna – Ha! Glad somebody can relate!
@James – I stopped reading after your third word.
…okay I read the whole thing. I’m trying to avoid rehoming him lol. I’m asking for advice or links to helpful info to kind of nudge my husband toward not spoiling the dog 
Kona gets about an hour walk every day, and/or a trip to the local dog park where he runs nonstop for at least an hour. I’m thinking of kicking up his exercise, though, because it seems to me he may need more…
@Jen – She’ll be up on Craigslist before you can say Human Trafficking! XD
I like the idea of filming the “good dog” during the day while he’s at work, and filming his behavior after he gets home. I think I’ll start keeping a little video diary starting Monday, great idea!
@ms manners – So true. He’s a very understanding guy and he likes to say “but you know best since you’re home alone with him all day” but I don’t think he actually understands
With our daughter so far we’re on the same page. With children we’re very like minded, but I thought we were with the dog, too, so I guess we’ll see!
I may start handing him the leash when we’re out on walks as well, I usually have dinner on the table when he gets off work, but if I’m running late the dog sure could use a walk.
Thanks, getting a lot of help so far. I do want to compromise. I don’t want a robot dog, either, but I need a dog that is reliably obedient. Husband doesn’t like the idea of getting rid of him, though, so I think the rehoming threat has helped him see just how frustrating this is.
…Thumbs Up for James Dean because it IS a valid suggestion.
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Answer by Donna Reed
MEN just don’t get it do they? My dh is the same way. Thank god his dogs died of old age before we married lol! You are right. Inconsistency will ruin a dog. Now my husband doesn’t say a thing about my own dogs.
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Is this kid gay or just weird?
K. I’m straight and just curious to if i have a gay friend.I just met this kid but we became good friends pretty fast. the thing that was bugging me was that he constantly ask me to go to his house to smoke (Yes mj sorry to put it out like that). He’ll send me gay text messages with dudes penis’s or something that involves masturbation(not of him the little forward messages), he has said somethings that just didn’t sound right like this one text had a guy shooting a deer with his cum and i was like that’s sick what you sent me and he was like that’s why i hunt and gave me this weird look. He doesn’t like to touch girls and thinks they’re nasty. He kind of acts like a sissy because if he bumps his knuckle or something he’ll be like OW but in like a girlie voice. IS this kid gay or just Weird in the head?
Not that much because i Have a gay friend already but i don’t talk to him that much.
Sniper Elite – need some advice on a level… plz don’t just link…?
I am on level 4, where you have to meet with your agent and get a new rifle, then assassinate a german and a russian guy from the hotel.
I cannot get to the agent without alerting the guards to my presence. There are 2 guards who stand near the ally I need to go in. 1 walks away, the other doesn’t. I have no ammo for my pistol, so I can’t do a silent kill.
How the heck am I supposed to do this? If I kill them, I can get my rifle, kill everything I see on the way to the hotel and hide out just fine, but when they guy drives up in the car, I can’t kill him, bullets just bounce off it. If I try and plant dynamite on the street where his car will be, so I can explode it, I just get a cut scene with a guard aborting the convoy and it’s game over.
HELP!!!!! Thanks!
This is just a very lame excuse and a misuse of science to indulge infidelity. (?
To say that your bio needs make you sane is like saying animals are saner than people because animals always succumb to their bio needs. So what if your instinct tells you to sleep with other partners? Would you then think it’s okay to think of your sister or your mother as very sexy or possible sexual partners? No. Human is capable of being mindful, moral, and ethical. It’s your choice to follow that and not succumb to your “supposedly” bio needs show how much of a man you are. BTW, if you are going to argue that sleeping with other partners are in interest of the species, guess what science lover, turn out that having a relationship with one person guarantee more sex (and more great sex) with less effort rather than go out hunting for “candidates” every night. Before using science as an excuse for infidelity and a skeptical view on humanity, think carefully.
I’m not denying human sexual needs. I am trying to say that it’s ridiculous to compare animal behavior to human behavior and try to justify cheating by saying that it’s just an animal drive and it’s normal to give in to it. Human isn’t like animal, and we all know that. (Some animals do mate for life, but not for the same reason as human.) Long term relationship doesn’t mean only romantic (this is where science comes in) www.alliance.brown.edu/pubs/ic/looping/looping.pdf This is an example of “long-term” interaction with someone which helps your performance.Cheating is not in the interest of the specie, specifically in human practice. First off, we don’t cheat because we want to have babies. (Animals are polygamous because they are TRYING to procreate. It’s not the same for us.) Second, sleeping around means more chances of getting STDs, emotional traumas (guilt, fear, low esteem…), stress (to impress new mate, to leave old mate), etc. It’s not only science, it’s logic.
Those people who keep on saying how polygamous relationships are natural need to check again the topic of the discussion. If you live in a polygamous culture then yes, it’s your choice. We are talking about misusing anthropology and science evident to justify “cheating” (which is having sex with another partner against the knowledge and/or consent of the current partner). So before labeling me as not knowing what I talk about, please actually understand the topic at hand. And if you want me to show your evidence, I posted a link. What have you shown for it except being angry that I would argue that cheating cannot be excused by science?
Is there anything I can do? Should I just mind my own business?
Hello, how is everyone?
I have a question about a good friend of mine. I knew this guy since last year. So this year is our second year of friendship, and this is our first year as room mates. I felt since I’m studying abroad, why not room mate with someone I know instead of a stranger. So I did. Back before when I knew him in our first year in college he was fun and outgoing, like a brother really. Now, and especially recently, he dedicates most of his time on the computer playing an online game called Runescape… We are friends and everything, but we spend very little time together now. In order not to feel depressed as I don’t have anyone to talk to since im studying abroad with him, and all my friends are in my home country, I knock on his door about 10 times a day. It is annoying for me as it is annoying for him, I guess. But he is never out, always in his room playing the same game for 10 hours or more a day. He wakes, first thing he does turn on his laptop, and sits in the same chair for the same amount of time everyday. I ask him if he wants to go out he says Idk, maybe. That’s almost the answer to everything I ask him about. Want to watch a movie on TV? Idk, maybe. Nearly everything. Since the past 3-4 months he puts the game as his first priority. I ask him if he wants to go out, he says right after this hunt. I ask him when will it end? He says Idk, 3-4 hours? I actually wait that long, and it still doesn’t end. It gets late and we both call it a day. I wake up everyday with the same routine. The way he lives his life has affected mine. I became inactive, depressed and unmotivated since I’m abroad with this guy and we’re both on scholarships and he’s the only one I know from the country. If I go and talk to him and ask him “look at what this game done to you” he says “I’m having fun” that’s if he is not too busy chatting in-game. He chooses to spend time in-game hunting instead of going out or spending time with a real friend. The only reason I try and knock on his door daily more than 10 times is because he was not like this. I’m already planning to change room mates next year and never to know him again? Sure, I feel like I should mind my own business, but that’s if I was in my home country. Again, im here abroad in a country that I have never been in, and he’s the only friend that I actually know there. What should I do? I need advice… please. I’m sick of this life, just now he made me wait from 11 am till now 4:22 pm so he can finish his hunt so we can go check out a gym. The game is destroying him, literally.
Friend of mine just got back from Afghanistan. What do you think of his experience?
He was out on patrol clearing land mines when a kid comes out with a sniper rifle and a crowd of other kids dancing around him. The kid is fooling around, trying to freak out the soldiers. This kid was a wannabee shahid. If the soldiers shoot, they look like the bad guy for shooting at kids.
What kind of game is this?
Just bought Battlefield 2 and am having some issues and problems?
Whenever I play online I can play for like 2 minutes then I get kicked from the game and it says the same thing everytime. Something about about the driver/server. I am not sure if it is because I don’t have the latest version, but I just bought it.
Also I am wondering how you unlock guns like the L96A1?
Also what is the best sniper or gun?
This is what it says:
Punkbuster kicked player ***ME*** for (0 minutes)
RESTRICTION: dissallowed program/driver
